Rain on LOVE… His Words
“Love is hard work. Depending on your efforts, love is something that could be eternal, or something that could end tomorrow.”
— Rain, on love
by Terri :-} @ Cloud USA
HIS IDEAL WOMAN (Based on a variety of interviews from 2002—2010) :-}
- Wanted: Female—and very soon.
- Height: 168 cm, more or less.
- Hair: Long hair, long hair, long hair, long hair. Shall I say that again? This is a guy who likes long hair. Straight or permed, doesn’t matter, but it’s gotta be LONG. :-}
- Looks: Someone who is sexy. Someone who looks pretty even without makeup. Someone who looks pure and innocent. Doesn’t have to necessarily be fashionable, but should dress neat and cleanly. Someone who is “fit” (not model thin), even a little “chubby.” I think what he’s saying he wants is a woman who is a healthy size. We all know that skinny isn’t necessarily healthy and neither is fat.
- Fashion: Someone who can be fashionable, but who is comfortable wearing jeans and tee-shirts, sweats and sneakers. In other words, someone who doesn’t take hours to get ready to go out on a date, but who cleans up well. [Like me! Hahahaha. ^@@^]
- Nationality: Open. Apparently, his idea of beauty is rather international and rather broad.
- Age: A few years younger and 10 years older are both okay. Very vague on this issue. I don’t think it’s relevant to him, really. If you love someone, what does age matter anyway?
- Occupation: Okay, apparently Rain wants his wife to be available to him when he’s available. So, that means she needs to be either a student or a housewife. Sorry, career ladies, but that’s what he keeps saying. Maybe he’ll change his tune when he moves into his 30s.
- Salary: Any, doesn’t matter. He can afford you. Trust me on this one.
- Personality: A women who has a good, kind, beautiful heart (read: compassionate). Someone who is nice and gentle and willing to follow, but who is also comfortable leading. Someone who is confident. Someone who is “good” to him. Someone who, even if she’s really mad at him about something, if he says he’s sorry, she’ll forgive him. He wants someone who has a “dual” personality, in other words, someone who can be a lady on the street and a freak in the bed. :-} And you gotta be able to cook and clean well. (Okay, well that leaves ME out…darn it. :-})
“I would like to feel at ease with her when we talk. Someone who’s fun, who is a good cook, who enjoys the things I like, who looks good in jeans and a tee-shirt. The reason I’m bringing this up is when I was young, I attended Anyang Arts High School. I was on the bus and fell asleep. When I woke up, there was this girl in cotton pants and a white cotton shirt. Her hair was straight and slightly long and her hair was flowing with the wind—you know how it is in movies. But she got off just then. I didn’t want to lose her…” — Rain on his ideal woman, from OBS Interview, 2008
“I hope she is a good person. I want someone who will take care of me…that’s what I want.” — Rain on his ideal woman, from an interview with Jessica Soho
ON BEING IN LOVE
“A man and a woman cannot be ‘just friends.’ The reason is a spark can go off [between them] at any time. Filled up with ‘fuel,’ either the man or the woman can ignite that spark. While watching a drama or a movie [together], you accidentally touch hands. Did I feel something? You think about it later, at home. You held hands once, and starting the next day, you want to see her again. If a woman really considers her boyfriend [fairly], she shouldn’t meet other men. If a man really loves her, he should say, ‘Don’t meet him. Come to me. I’ll leave work right now.’ That’s love. Love is abandoning what you’re doing just to see her. [Aside to himself] ‘I’m really agitated about this?!’ … I won’t meet another woman either. Whether younger or older, I won’t meet them. Even if work-related. It’s not that I’m small-minded, it’s just out of love for [my girlfriend].” — from a TV talk show 이정진, with Kang HoDong, 2004
“I was in a drama where I had a child and loved a woman endlessly [SangDoo]. If that situation was reversed, and I ended up liking someone with a child, if there is love, then I don’t see a problem with her having a child or not having a child. I really wish a true love would happen to me as well.” —Star Capsule KM Interview
“Every time I was in love, I told myself, ‘I want to marry her.’ I had this in mind with every relationship. When I dated, I always had in mind, ‘If I live with her, what kind of ideal family would we have?’ I am the type who is very sincere when I’m in love.” — from Win Win Talk Show, 2010
“I think no matter how tough a man may be, once he is in front of his lover, he will unconditionally become weak. He will know how to let her spoil him… I may be dazzling on stage, but in front of my lover, I am willing to kneel down for her.” —from Win Win Talk Show, 2010
“My father once said, ‘Once you’ve met the girl you like, you must not ever let her go.'” — from Win Win Talk Show, 2010
“I met her while practicing for my debut…she was a very famous model back then…I wanted to date her, but I had no car and no ability. But she understood my situation. I really appreciated it. [Still, we broke up] because of self respect. I told her of my situation and asked for her opinion. She said, ‘It doesn’t matter.’ We loved each other, but we broke up anyway, because I wanted to be a tree that could shelter her from the wind and the rain. If my roots were not deep enough, I could not protect her. So, I said, ‘My situation is very bad, but I will become a tree with deep roots. Please wait for me.’ It was very hard though.” — From YSMM show, 2009…in response to question on why Rain broke up with a girl he loved as he was debuting in 2002.
“If I meet Ms. Right, I will respect her privacy. Her privacy is more important than my gut [needs]…” — from Time Magazine Interview, 2008
“If I could ensure my privacy, I think I would want to find a girl friend as soon as possible… enjoy my rest time with girlfriend. It’s so good even to have a drink, to have a talk. I want to enjoy the love of life which other people have.” — from Shin Hae Chul Special Edition Interview, 2008/2009
“I don’t hate people who are rich or successful, but I hate those who ‘pretend to own,’ those born in a good environment [who] own things without effort… I believe they might have earned it in their own way, but they have many people around to help them. It’s the same in [their] love affairs. [They say] ‘I don’t want to date her anymore, but I don’t want other men to date her either.’ They don’t need something, but they don’t want to give it to others. So, they keep things as back-ups.” — from Shin Hae Chul Special Edition Interview , 2008/2009
“I don’t have a girlfriend, but I would like to meet someone. I don’t know. Maybe I might meet someone soon.” — from CNN’s Talk Asia, 2009
“Yeah. I need a girlfriend…very soon!” [Laugh] — from AsiaFinest Interview, 2009
“I’m not the kind of person who cuts off all contact once it’s over.” — from Win Win Show, 2010
“I want to show, in front of my girlfriend, the side of me that others can’t see. Up to now, the date that was the most impressive and unforgettable to me was the day when I met my [ex] girlfriend for the first time. I carried her on my back. Beautiful memories… I like to hold hands and walk when I date.” —from Win Win Talk Show, 2010
“Because we are both busy, and we don’t have time to create memories, so the gap between us gets wider and wider.” —Rain on why women keep leaving him [even though he is such a sweet man], from Win Win Talk Show, 2010
“The last time I was in love was 4 years ago. Now, I really don’t have any time to date.” — from After Drinking Interview with JES, 2010
ON SACRIFICING LOVE FOR FAME AND FORTUNE
“The gift of youth of the twenties? The twenties, when everyone else—dates other people? When everyone can enjoy themselves? Everything a man in his twenties deserves? I’ve given all that up to someone called ‘Rain’. I think that’s about right. No, I haven’t any regrets whatsoever. But no, I don’t—I don’t get to feel what other people get to. But that’s fair, isn’t it? To gain one thing, you have to sacrifice another.” — from Rain is Coming, MBC Documentary, 2008
“I want to date girls, but I’m sure those who work hard will agree—if you love what you are doing, you miss out on love. If you’re really into love, you miss out on your work… I am very much attached to my work.” — from OBS Interview, 2008
“I have been [really] hurt just once in my love relationships, because she told me that my real love was my work and not her.” —from Win Win Show, 2010
“I think the career of an artist is like a double-edged sword. It looks glorious and interesting on the surface. You can obtain fame and money, like magic. But turning around, you are very lonely. If you make a mistake even once, you’ll be scolded. Even one failure isn’t allowed. Someone might say, “What hardship could you possibly have?” Frankly speaking, even Bill Gates has hardships. There must be something that Bill Gates finds hard, such as how to manage his company? How to manage his properties, etc.? Hardship always comes with happiness.” — from Shin Hae Chul Special Edition Interview, 2008/2009
“I feel more and more lonely. Yes. The longer I stand in front of the public, the lonelier I feel. More and more lonely. I do not feel satisfied. So, I work even harder. If I could have put away my dream and ambition even a little bit, I could have lived more happily. Specifically, if my dream and challenge had failed, it would have been very dangerous. The failure, I mean.” — from Shin Hae Chul Special Edition Interview, 2008/2009
ON THE WOMEN HE HAS WORKED WITH
Lim Su-Jung: “She is a beautiful woman… beautiful hearted…. Her tolerance is huge. She can tolerate others. She looks like a mother if someone made mistakes. Very generous, very good woman.” — from Shin Hae Chul Special Edition Interview, 2008/2009
Song Hye-Kyo: “We are friends. She’s a few months older than me, but she still allows me to call her ‘older sister.’ [On the set] She always arrived 5 to 10 minutes early. Always like this. It surprised me though. Why? As an actress who takes off at 3-4 am. She needs at least an hour to clean up and sleep. About 2 hours to prepare in beauty salon… One day, I asked her, ‘I am late every time. How can you arrive 5-10 minutes early?’ She said she didn’t sleep, or that she would just sleep 20-30 minutes, then wake up because of work. I feel she is really professional. A woman who has passion at work… I feel Song Hye-Kyo is very professional. Of course, she is very beautiful.” — from Shin Hae Chul Special Edition Interview , 2008/2009
Jun In Hwa: “I like someone with a very comfortable style. I like her personality and she has a very comfortable style.” —from a TV interview
Jun Ji-Hyun: “As for looks, I like someone who looks pure, like Jun Ji-Hyun. Am I really that picky?” — from a TV interview
Susan Sarandon: “When I first saw Susan Sarandon [Mom Racer] on the [Speed Racer] set—I was her biggest fan when I was young—so I went up to her and said, ‘Hi, Susan. I’m learning English. So, I might just make a mistake in grammar or pronunciation. Would you please correct me, because I’m going to try speaking in English?’ And she helped me out.” —interview with Lena Shin, 2008
“She is my religion.” — Rain on his mother, from OBS Interview, 2009
“Oh…of course. I do have a lot of regrets. There are times when I think I didn’t do well enough for her. But as I said, my mother was the greatest motivation for me to try to do my best. And I’m still working hard because I feel guilty about my mother. That guilt—a lot of it—I think comes from the time seeing my mother in bed ten days before she died. I asked myself is the pain I’m going through greater than what she is experiencing? Whatever it is, the pain will never be greater than the physical pain that she went through. So, no matter what happens, I have to give it my best. This is what I thought. So, that’s probably why I’m able to work hard, regardless of the difficulties that I may come across. Despite the regrets that I have, and the guilt that I have with my mother, I think I can now think of myself as her proud son and a good friend.” — from CNN’s Talk Asia, 2009
“My father is the drive to my life and gives me a place to relax, but my source of motivation is my mother. Whenever I start a new drama or launch a new album, I always go first to my mother and tell her. If I tell her, it all goes well. It all goes really well and I think she is really helping me so much. Because of that, I can’t afford to be idle.” — from OBS Interview, 2008
“I really worry if Dad feels alone, because Mother is not here. Luckily, Dad has many friends. He is either exercising or driving around. Every day is so busy. My younger sister is busy studying fashion design in college. Thanks for them. They have never disturbed my work. That allows me to concentrate on work. They let me go. Therefore, I can focus on my work. However, I still feel sorry about my family. Because they are here, I can concentrate on my work, but it is so lonely though.” — from Shin Hae Chul Special Edition Interview, 2008/2009
“The three of us are alone as well. When I go home, there’s only one sentence conversations with my younger sister. [Me] ‘Did you eat?’ [Her] ‘Oh! Not yet.’ Then, [Both] ‘Good night,’ and then she goes back to her room. In the morning it’s, [Me] ‘You going to school?’ [Her] ‘Yes, I’m going to school.’ Then, [Both] ‘Good-bye.’ There are only like 3 sentences in a day. If she comes to me, she says ‘Brother, what’s Up?’ [Me] ‘Did you eat?’ [Her] ‘No. I want to buy something.’ [Me] ‘Oh, yeah? Okay, what is it?’ She shows me stuff on the computer. [Me] ‘This one? I know, but it seems a bit expensive.’ [Her] ‘Just don’t buy it if it’s expensive.’ She is rude. [Her] ‘Don’t buy it, then.’ This kind of style.
One day, I found my jewelry was disappearing one piece at a time from my room. Later, I found them in my sister’s room. My sister is a gangster—a kind of pushy personality. I quite enjoy her character in this way. She is busy doing her stuff, which is better than feeling alone. Thus, I can concentrate on my work…When people ask her, ‘Do you feel good because your brother is well known? She always says, ‘It’s so annoying, nothing is good!’ She has to ask me where she can go. Sister is annoyed and self-abased. She doesn’t want it. She’s interested in her work, and works hard. From a brother’s point of view, I’m proud of my sister.” — from Shin Hae Chul Special Edition Interview , 2008/2009
“You start with love, then comes effort, then respect.” — from OBS Interview, 2008
“For the first 3 years of marriage, it’s love. After that, living the rest of your life with someone is respecting each other…” —from OBS II Interview, 2008
“I think I must take all kinds of opportunities when I am young and try to taste not only success but also failure. That way, when I’m 40 or 50, and I have my own children, I will have enough knowledge with which to education them. If I had only chosen to walk down the safe path, I wouldn’t be where I am today. If I had done that, then to all of you I would have only been known as Rain, a dancer and singer.” — from Win Win Show, 2010